32: Stop Saying "You Made Me Feel": How to Own Your Feelings Without Blame
Description
In this episode, I'm unpacking one of the most common — and most disconnecting — phrases I hear in relationships:
"You made me feel…"
It sounds honest. It feels true. But in reality, it often leads to defensiveness, arguments, and emotional distance.
Drawing from the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I'll walk you through why this phrase contains a subtle form of blame — even if you don't mean it that way — and how shifting the way you express your feelings can lead to more understanding, more connection, and more of your needs being met.
You'll learn:
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Why saying "You made me feel…" can derail communication
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The key difference between stimulating feelings vs. causing them
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A more effective and connected way to talk about your emotions
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How to take self-responsibility without self-blame — and why it matters
If you've ever felt like you're trying to be honest, but it only seems to start a fight, this episode will give you a new way forward.
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Feelings and Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds
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